'No Spanking' Law

I heard about it from the radio few weeks ago? They were trying to implement it in another country. So I just randomly started pondering over it again just a while ago. Before I proceed, anything mentioned in this post and any other post is just a personal opinion and nothing more. Please don't get offended or anything. ^^' And please don't sue me for my opinions just 'coz I don't have children yet. =p

There were many times as I watched others or even younger children behave in a bad way, be it being part of their personality or just having a mood swing. Sometimes I wonder...if they were ever spanked or in anyway punished by their parents before. Sure..nowadays many couples have this policy of 'no-spanking' their beloved offspring as they believe they may educate their children in a different manner. But what if the children suddenly starts to tear the house down? (I didn't mean literally, but something that's almost just as bad) The adults just wanna talk it out with the kids after the house is down maybe and pray the kids don't tear down the remaining apartment? Come on... Surely the adults aren't going to let the kids repeat their mistake over and over again when they seriously don't listen. Of course, if they do listen, by all means use the 'talking' method the next time they do something wrong.

Besides, not spanking your children can sometimes cause more stress than not to the adults. Then the adults start spanking other adults. (Oops..naughty thoughts. =p) Well, no one is asking you to swing a bat or pan at the poor kid. (The kids' only pitiful when punished that sadistically, so the word 'poor') Nor spank your children for every other minor things like not wanting to poop when you want them to. (Babies and young kids do that but hey...stealing ain't a minor thing. Stealing is a crime. It can get you to jail.) If you need to spank for minor things, maybe do it lightly (like sweeping) or playfully.

I believe there are many parents who give harsher punishments than spanking like not allowing the kid a meal or even leaving the kid outside the house alone at night. Although it may be effective but that can be very damaging. Especially now that crime rate is very high in many countries, it's not safe to have your child alone outside of the house. Starving the kid would only cause gastric and other health matters (that would also increase more work load for the adult like taking the kid to the clinic or whatever). So I believe that adults should educate their children in a smart way. (That doesn't mean being a smart-alec or making your child one. It just works the same principle as 'Don't study hard, study smart'.) But please keep a limit, whatever punishment it may be and don't go all sadist on the poor kid. = ='ll You won't want them to go sadist on you when you grow old and feeble. ;)

Apart from all that spanking stuff, I believe that some children are actually grow closer to the caretaker that educates them more rather than the 'oh-so-loving-and-don't-spank' other. But of course there are some that sticks more to the 'oh-so-loving' one especially when the 'scary' one seems to start to grow longer horns. Although so, don't go spanking your children everyday for no apparent reason in hopes that they'll love you more. That WON'T work. xD xD xD

There's also another thing that I heard, supposedly from psychologists, that things get to the males' head more when you talk in a softer or soothing voice, while a louder and forceful voice works for the girls. *shrugs* That's what I heard but I doubt you can directly apply it all the time. Imagine you have 1 girl and 1 boy. You keep shouting at the girl while you talk softly to the boy. Somewhere sometime the girl is going to think that you're prejudiced and loves boys more when it's actually not true but you're doing so thanks to those psychologists or just wanting to try out the idea. (Don't sue me. I'm not forcing an obligation on anybody. It's just a theory, reliable or not.) Or what happens if you have a girl with more male hormones? Now what?? You keep changing your tones between each word? You must sound like a broken horn then. ;p

Hm...it seems that the theory also can't be applied according to voice volume. For example, you're suppose to speak soothingly to a boy. So what happens if that boy is always listening to music blasting out of his earphones that even if you step a mile away, you can still hear the music crystal clear? He's going to be deaf to a certain extend. So here's the thing, you have no choice but to shout. Note 1: that's LOUD. Not soothing. Note 2: But, it is to him 'coz he can't hear it clearly. =D Haha. Confusing, no? ;p

Heheh. Hey peoplez, love can't be divided but love can be delivered soft or hard. ;) So love your children today and every other day. If you don't have children, you always have one within yourself. =) Enjoy. ^^

(Psst..I'm not promoting violence in any way, ok?)